Whether you are a mother, father, sister, brother, teacher, administrator, or anyone in management, it is important to understand that trying to exert power and control is usually not very effective. Too often I see and hear about people trying to exert their control and power over another individual(s). Perhaps, they feel that is their purpose. They are “right” and that is all that matters. This attitude, is often welcomed with skepticism and contempt. One certainly can’t influence someone else positively in this manner.
There are so many other, much more important and efficient, ways to influence people.
Here are some ways people can influence people in a positive manner . . . .
– build relationships
– build trust
– understand their perspectives
– develop an understanding that the majority of people (including children) are good and are trying their best.
– try to ensure you are acting with patience
– work together – teamwork is imperative in making a difference and in having any sort of influence.
– people, children or adults may need support in developing an understanding of the above.
Some may need more support than others.
Some may need their learning broken down into smaller pieces to try to deepen this understanding.
Some may actually require more support than you are able to provide. In this case, it is important to know who you need to contact for additional assistance.
Can you influence people by using the “it’s my way or the highway” attitude? Sure you can. Is it going to be effective and positive? Nope! Is it going to get you what you want (especially long-term)? Absolutely not!
In fact, acting in this way, will actually have the opposite effect. It is not about Power and Control. It IS about making a positive difference and influencing people in positive ways – both personally and professionally. This is when you will be able to achieve your goals in the present and the future.
How do you try to influence people? Is your personal influence different from your professional influence? If so, how so?