I have had some difficult times in my life. If you have followed this blog for the past three years, you probably saw a bit of a glimpse here and there into my childhood and some challenging times as an adult. These times required a great deal of resilience to get through and become who I am today. I have learned to embrace who I am and how I got here.
One of the attributes which I think has helped me get through the challenges I have faced is my positive attitude. I try to see the bright side of things. As silly as it might sound, I aim to see problems as learning experiences. When facing adversity, I ask myself often: What can I learn from this? What am I meant to “get” from this experience? Why? I have always tried to do ask these questions. Although sometimes it might take some time before I reach the frame of mind to be ready to actually ask these questions, I do usually get there.
I’ve felt that this quality of looking at the positives in situations was one of my good qualities. This is a quality that has helped me through many situations. I was surprised recently, however, when I was having a discussion with a respected colleague and he said, with a laugh,
“I love your positive attitude, Tia, but, doesn’t it P*ss some people off?”
While we both laughed at this question, I reflected upon this later.
Yah, I guess my positive attitude may annoy some people sometimes. I think it might annoy people more before they really get to know me as a person. It is who I am though. It is not an act. It is me.
While I have learned to contain some of my enthusiasm about things I am passionate about, I can not apologize for trying to look at the bright side of things when things are challenging.
I can not apologize for trying to find the positives in what seems like the most bleak circumstances.
Believe me, I have had times in my life where it hasn’t been easy to look at the bright side of things. But, really, what are the other options? For me, and those I love, there really are no other options.
How do you respond to adversity?
How do you take care of yourself when you are faced with challenging circumstances?
How do your keep yourself healthy – physically and emotionally?