Too Positive?

 

 

4803542425_21e7355746I have had some difficult times in my life. If you have followed this blog for the past three years, you probably saw a bit of a glimpse here and there into my childhood and some challenging times as an adult. These times required a great deal of resilience to get through and become who I am today. I have learned to embrace who I am and how I got here.

One of the attributes which I think has helped me get through the challenges I have faced is my positive attitude.  I try to see the bright side of things.  As silly as it might sound, I aim to see problems as learning experiences. When facing adversity, I ask myself often: What can I learn from this? What am I meant to “get” from this experience? Why?  I have always tried to do ask these questions. Although sometimes it might take some time before I reach the frame of mind to be ready to actually ask these questions, I do usually get there. 

I’ve felt that this quality of looking at the positives in situations was one of my good qualities.  This is a quality that has helped me through many situations. I was surprised recently, however, when I was having a discussion with a respected colleague and he said, with a laugh,

“I love your positive attitude, Tia, but, doesn’t it P*ss some people off?”

While we both laughed at this question, I reflected upon this later.

Yah, I guess my positive attitude may annoy some people sometimes. I think it might annoy people more before they really get to know me as a person.  It is who I am though. It is not an act. It is me.

While I have learned to contain some of my enthusiasm about things I am passionate about, I can not apologize for trying to look at the bright side of things when things are challenging.

I can not apologize for trying to find the positives in what seems like the most bleak circumstances.

Believe me, I have had times in my life where it hasn’t been easy to look at the bright side of things. But, really, what are the other options?  For me, and those I love, there really are no other options.

How do you respond to adversity?

How do you take care of yourself when you are faced with challenging circumstances?

How do your keep yourself healthy – physically and emotionally?

Things We Forget

 

About Tia M. Dawson

There are many things that define who I am as a person. First of all, I am a mother of 3 wonderful children! I can not express how fortunate we are to have our children in our life! Secondly, I am an elementary educator who recently returned to the classroom after 12+ years as an elementary school administrator. Lastly, I am passionate about helping others, learning about abuse, helping others in abusive relationships, and helping others understand their worth.
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8 Responses to Too Positive?

  1. Excellent, similar to you, I face everything each day with a positive attitude. I am a believer in the law of attraction; therefore, I only want to send out positive thoughts and positive energy.

  2. Sarah Garr says:

    Although you credit your positive attitude as a quality that has allowed you to overcome challenging circumstances, I think perhaps it may also have developed as a direct result of these same difficult experiences. I find that experiencing adversity/challenge has gifted me with a different perspective, a kind of reference point. Things that at one time may have seemed insurmountable, I now try to view as opportunities for growth and learning. In this way, I believe that a positive attitude is not simply a character trait, but a different way of viewing and responding to the daily challenges that we are faced with. Thanks for sharing Tia.

    • T. Henriksen says:

      Hi Sarah,

      Good point! Absolutely. The more challenges we go through, the more resilient we can become (some of us more than others). It is those daily challenges and life difficulties that make us who we are. You can’t really say chicken or the egg really. The positive attitude *can* sometimes annoy some people though.

  3. Tia, I totally get this! I have grown into a similar mindset over the years. I call myself Pollyanna :-). But it’s true that an optimistic outlook can help you deal with challenges and move forward through difficult times. I once had a teacher ask me, “Don’t you ever get upset about things?” Of course we do, we just manage to see it as a challenge or a learning experience. It’s all about the mindset!

    • T. Henriksen says:

      Hi Carol, I mean Pollyanna!

      That optimistic outlook can truly move you forward, help you deal with challenges, and help you to become resilient. It is all about mindset! Absolutely! Good for you for having that positive outlook and attitude toward solving problems instead of being overwhelmed and swallowed by them. Thanks for reading and responding, Carol!
      Tia
      🙂

  4. Thanks, Tia, for sharing your experience. It’s interesting. I find it much easier and comfortable to be positive with others than to maintain the same outlook for my own endeavors. That’s certainly a plus at work and it requires ongoing work with myself. The learning continues. I appreciate your example.
    Sherri

    • T. Henriksen says:

      Hi Sherri,

      Isn’t it interesting that you find it easier to be positive with others, moreso than with yourself? Hmmm…. Why do you think that is? Do you have higher expectations for yourself, perhaps? Can you ever reach those high expectations? Please remember to give yourself a break every now and then and truly appreciate all you do and all you offer others. It is difficult sometimes to look at ourselves in positive ways, however, I believe it is essential.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on this post! I appreciate it very much.
      Tia

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