New Year’s Resolutions are common to make at the beginning of each new year. These goals are usually lofty, difficult to keep, and usually end up being broken. For many, these resolutions focus on health, developing a healthy lifestyle, or getting into better physical condition. Of course, these are not the only resolutions people make. Some may resolve to get a better job or be a better person, or even read more books. People start the year with their resolution at the forefront. Usually, people do quite well for the first couple of months, but then things change. People revert into their old routines, their old habits rear their ugly heads and they begin to do things the way they used to do them. Many times, people fail in their resolutions before they reach the mid-year point. Then, they get down on themselves, not realizing that the resolution they made was not really possible to begin with.
I do not make resolutions. I never really have.
This year, though, I decided that having a focus might be a good thing.
A different kind of focus – one that is much smaller, yet, at the same time, much, much bigger than a resolution. A word. One word that will help provide focus throughout the year. Sounds easy, right?
Here are some words bloggers, educational or otherwise, will focus on for 2013. Karen Lirenman, a Grade 1 teacher in our school district, wrote about her word recently. You can read her post here. As a new mom, Kath Younger, writes about her word here. Jo-anna writes about her word of the year on her A Pretty Life in the Suburbs blog here. Merry, on her blog Merry With Children, writes about her one word here.
So, in thinking of what I want to accomplish this year, what I want to learn, what I want to become, and where I want to be when 2013 is over, many words come to mind.
Forward. Believe. Inspire. Share. Learn. Health. Accomplish. Clarity. Grateful. Release.
When it comes down to it though, at risk of sounding selfish, this year, my word needs to be ME.
As a wife, mother, teacher, and leader (among other things), I focus a lot of time, effort and brain-power on others, but not too much on myself. I believe strongly that if we don’t take care of ourselves first, then we are going to be of very little help to those around us. Just like when the flight attendant says in case of an emergency, you should put the oxygen mask on you first before giving the oxygen mask to the other members of your family. That goes against our first instinct which is to help those we care about first, but it is essential. If we first give the oxygen mask to those we care about then by the time we give it to ourselves, it might be too late. We may be out of oxygen ourselves. Then what?
This year, I am going to try to focus more on Me.
Making time to purposefully reflect.
Pampering myself with time – time to read when it is quiet – whether that is a non-fiction book, a professional article, blog posts, or my Twitter feed.
Taking time to have a nice cup of tea and just enjoy it (with a friend or alone).
Getting out in the fresh air more often is important for me this year. My family and I used to exercise together 3-4 times each week. Last year, that time was virtually non-existent, unfortunately. This year WILL be different. It has to be. For me.
I would like to enjoy my photography hobby more than last year. I find photography to be a creative outlet with which to express myself. It allows me to “get away from it all”. It’s quiet and reflective. It’s something I like to do for me.
It’s important for me to take care of my self-care needs (like making time to get my hair cut more often, for instance, among other things).
I am not sure how I am going to accomplish this goal. In fact, I have no idea, but if I don’t put it out there, then I won’t have any possibility of making ME a priority.
What is your word this year? Please share.
(If you’d like some help coming up with a word, here is a list of words contributed by many people from around the world.)